Instead of you to allow satan to manipulate you
into turning COUNSELING into "SEXELING",the following tips can
1.Never allow indecent dressing before you.Tell them to
always dress well.If one should come like that.Have a spare cloth to
give to such.
2.Never become over emotional with people's case.You can RELATE with it but never RESONATE with it.
3.Always be in control of the discussion.I have been in counseling where I have to cut discussion short to assert my control.
4.Never allow sexual discussion to go out of context.You are the counselor not the person's husband or lover.
5.Don't counsel in a closed door office with opposite sex.If
possible,let someone stay opposite the door but far away from hearing
what is being said.
6.If you can afford it,have a CCTV camera in your office to video all events.
7.If the case is really about sexual matter,with permission ask the
woman if she will permit your wife to be involved or handle her.Some
will but some won't.If you are not a professional in handling sex
related cases which many ministers are naive about,please refer her to
the appropriate authority.
8.Focus on the issue at hand and not on
the person.Some ministers are carried away with the beauty and body
physique of some ladies.Don't be distracted.If you are the emotional
unstable person or you have challenge with lust,I advice you allow your
wife handle such.
9.Don't be too jovial with opposite sex.It might lead to something else.Some might mis-interpret your intentions.
10.Learn to discern people you counsel.Some are agents of darkness
whose aim is to pull you down.Like one that came to me.I discerned who
she is and even told her who she was.You needed to see how startled she
was asking me who told me?
10.When counseling,guide your heart against immoral thoughts because demons can be around to project such into you.
11.While looking straight at the face of the person you are counseling
is good but it can become a point of contact for demons to project lust
into you especially when you are dealing with those possessed with
12.Restrict your counseling to your office.Going
to continue it else where is not advisable.And if need be,go with
someone else please.Some have innocently destroyed their testimonies via
13.Learn to record counseling section atimes.It helps you to
listen to yourself and see what and what you can improve on.It can also
be an evidence to save you from mischievious souls.
14.Let there be
a big table between you and the counsellee.It helps to distant
contact.A pastor fell when the lady started using her feet to romance
his shoe.God help us.
15.If there is need for deliverance,be careful
how you go about it.If it's a serious case allow one or two of your
ministers to join you.Even if you will lay hands,try and control the
person if there is manifestation.A marine lady wanted to use her breast
to hit my chest while praying for her.I had to push her backward and
told my team to hold her.Another one fell and was carrying her legs up
trying to show her ...I just told them to tie her legs up.Just be
careful.Nowadays,I prefer holding their hands while sitting across the
table to pray for such.
16.When counseling through phone,try to
control the discussion and always redirect the discussion to the main
issue.I was counseling a lady who started toasting me.Hmm!I had to help
the person to change her mindset.She complained about the husband.I had
to help her redirect that emotional energy to the husband.
17.Always be prayerful and discerning when counseling.Be over conscious
of the presence of God and put your head/heart straight.You are to help
people not compound their problems.God help us.
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