How to have a Joyful Home
Having a joyful home is not impossible. The purpose of getting married is to have a joyful home and live a fulfilled life but unfortunately the opposite is the case today. Many were joyful before marriage only to lose such after few months or some few weeks or days in the marriage. It suddenly dawned on them they were better been singles than been married.
The truth about marriage is that many don’t know that what led them into the marriage is the same thing that will lead you through it. So it is of utmost importance to know what led you into it. By this I am referring to your strong convictions (reasons) for marrying your spouse. Your convictions play a major role in the level and quality of joy you will experience in your home.
Your convictions determine your excitement in your marriage.
Your convictions determine your level of endurance.
Your convictions determine the level and growth of your love for your spouse.
Your convictions determine how well you would be poised to defend your spouse against anyone and anything.
Your convictions determine how you will live with your spouse strengths and weaknesses.
Your convictions determine how you will bond well with your spouse.
Your convictions determine everything that goes on in the marriage.
Your convictions determine how well you will fight to keep your marriage from external or internal destroyers.
Convictions are very powerful tools that help you work on your marriage no matter how tough it might seem or be. Unfortunately, many convictions people have today are not spiritually inclined but carnally motivated. Carnality might stand physical heats but it is useless under spiritual threats. This is the reason many Christian homes are been torn apart by the forces of darkness.
“13 When Jesus came into the coasts of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, saying, Whom do men say that I the Son of man am?
14 And they said, Some say that thou art John the Baptist: some, Elias; and others, Jeremias, or one of the prophets.
15 He saith unto them, But whom say ye that I am?
16 And Simon Peter answered and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God.” Matthew 16:13
The above incident can be applied to marriage. Jesus asked His disciples,
“ Whom do men say that I the Son of man am?”
The question might seem strange but it was very important to Jesus.
What are people’s opinions about your spouse?
What are people’s perceptions about your spouse?
These are critical questions that many have failed to answer and it has led to the collapse of their homes. People’s perceptions or opinions about your spouse may not be right in the real sense of it. But many have allowed such to cause confusions in their marital lives.
The disciples gave Jesus people’s opinions and perceptions about Him and He then asked them,
“He saith unto them, But whom say ye that I am?”
This question was necessarily if the divine relationship with them must grow and be sustained. This is the critical question many couples fail to answer.
Who is my spouse?
You might think you know your spouse but most of our knowing falls under carnality because you need to understand your spouse beyond the physical features. Apostle Peter replied,
“And Simon Peter answered and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God.”
Awesome revelation! This is what must take place in your marriage if you ever want to enjoy it as God intends. You must know your spouse from the spiritual dimension and not just from the physical or carnal dimension only. When you have divine illumination about who your spouse really is in God struggling to live at peace and in harmony with him or her will gradually become easy. This is where we fail as Christians because the devil makes us to concentrate on the physical more than the spiritual.
You need a divine revelation about your spouse as a believer in Christ Jesus. When Peter gave that revelation Jesus said,
“17 And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Bar-jona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.
18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” Matthew 16:17-18
This is very deep and insightful. What Peter said was not just mere words from his mind but was divinely inspired from above.
“…for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven."
Until you see your spouse from the spiritual dimension you might not appreciate his or her worth. We tend to judge our spouses by their physical features and weaknesses but that is totally misleading in the marital life. How did Peter get that revelation about Christ and how can you get the same revelation about your spouse?
“9 But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.
10 But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.”
It takes the Holy Spirit to help you get this revelation about your spouse. It means you must have a strong tie with Him for Him to reveal the spiritual dimension of your spouse as he or she is in Christ Jesus. Without the Holy Spirit it becomes impossible to receive this divine illumination. This is one of the missions of the Holy Ghost, to reveal things to us.
“12 I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now.
13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.” John 16:12-13
Your spouse as a believer in Christ is one of the packages God has prepared for you that love Him. If only you have this understanding you will do everything possible and impossible to maintain peace in your home. This is why when you have revelations about who your spouse really is it becomes a solid conviction that will help you stand the test of time.
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